During Life
When visiting with a friend while incarnated it is easy, normal, and natural for them to think of me as this human biological machine. Mostly that is what they see, hear, touch, smell, etc.
Yes, it is very possible to have direct being to being interaction. But, let’s face it, the vast majority of interaction is through the vehicle. Words come out of the hbm (human biological machine, sometimes known as the hamburger puppet). The hbm waves “howdy” with one of its appendages — usually a hand at the end of an arm.
Given that so much of our communication is through the mediation of the machines, it is normal to fall into the trap of thinking that you are your machine and I am my machine. And, this is partially true. However, we are more than just a machine. And at the death of the machine it is that part which is “more” that may continue.
After Death of the Machine
After terminus (or death of the human biological machine) it is time to drop the fixation on the individual as the machine. At this point the individual is whatever is left after the machine drops away. There are many different labels that people have used to designate this something else that is not a thing: nonphenomenal-self, being, higher self, soul, higher body, inner nature, essence, etc.
It might be easier to label this aspect of your self that persists after death of the machine as the “AOYSTPADOTM.” Or, perhaps you are more comfortable using whatever term you have already been using.
The point is, whatever you call the aoystpadotm, after death of the vehicle, after the container drops away, it is time to stop thinking of the individual as the container and try to consider them in their persisting aspect.